Meerkats just wanna have fun

So R.'s been gone for five days and although I miss him to bits I'm marvelling at all the wonderful things I get to do while he's gone, so much so that I've decided to compile a list of fun stuff to do (I realise this is for my own enjoyment only, so feel free to scroll down for more interesting stuff).

1. Knit in the big sofa. It's a two-seat, so when he's around I never knit on the sofa because I keep poking him with the needles and believe it or not he doesn't like that.
2. Watch whatever movies I feel like it whenever I want. We have a lot in common when it comes to cinematic taste, but still it's nice to know I do whatever I please and go crazy without feeling guilty for putting him through a two hour musical with no plot.
3. Sleep on the whole bed when it's hot. When I fall asleep I get really hot really fast, especially in the Summer. However, because I have the bed all to myself I simply roll over to his side whenever I get uncomfortably hot until it cools and I can roll back to my side.
4. Detoxing. Because I'm by myself and I'm too lazy to cook proper meals for one everyday I've taken the opportunity to do an impromptu detox. For the past few days I've been living on natural juices, fruit, soup, water, coffee, one daily portion of grilled meat and roasted veg. I haven't lost any weight (yet!) but I feel like my body has been decluttered, that it has more energy and it's much much happier.
5. Having a reading fest. You know when you just want to read for hours? Well for the past and next few days I can go crazy! Put some French music on, grab a book and curl up for however long until my reading thirst has been sated. 
6. Impromptu plans. I'm completely living in the moment, simply because I don't have anyone but me to deal with or worry about and it feels great to have a few selfish days! And if I feel the urge to go shopping at 3am (which hasn't happened yet), I know I can.
7. Soliloquys around the house. It sounds ridiculous but I'm taking great pleasure from knowing that if I want I can just start doing the St Crispin's Day speech completely out of the blue and for no good reason. Or that I can spontaneously burst into song or do silly dances and no one will worry I might have lost the plot.
8. Having a cleaning frenzy. You know when you just want to clear everything out of a room, clean it, sort it and then put everything back in? When I clean I prefer to have an early start and work my way into nightfall or until the task is finished. I'm a do it in one go kind of person, whereas R. is more of a lets compartmentalise the effort and spread it over a longer period of time kind of person. But not today! Today is the day when I get through every little thing we have in the closet and sort some of the paperwork we've been piling up for ages. Rock on!
9. Have Friends on all the time. We all like to have something going on the background to keep us company. R. likes QI and Mythbusters, which is grand, I have Friends. And the beauty of it is that is almost always on, you just need to find the right channel. And it keeps me company as I go about my business in the house.
10. Rediscovering what a fun person I am. No R. and no job means that I can pretty much do whatever I want whenever I want. Of course I still have basic stuff I need to go through (job hunting, job interviews, exercising (meh!), keeping the house clean and tidy-ish) but outside of that it's all about me. And that's great because I'm awesome!

Thankful Thursday # 12

It's been a while since the last time I did one of these. I must confess that things haven't been particularly easy for me for the past few weeks what with being unemployed for a bit over two months. I miss my old job and I hate jobhunting - I do it really well and am super organised and on top of things, but nevertheless I hate doing it. So I haven't really been in the mood to make a list of happy things. Today is the day I challenge that, at least for a bit, so shall we?

1. My boyfriend. Just having someone by my side is great because it helps so much to keep me grounded to reality, but to have this particular blend of awesomeness in my life is absolutely amazing. After so many job applications and interviews if it weren't for him I don't think I'd cope with what my life is so well. It's not just the support and the personalised emotional cheerleading; it's the strength and focus I find just by being next to him.
2. True Summer in the Midlands. Nice weather goes a long way to helping you keep your spirits up so I've been delighted with this past week - sunny, bright and hot, just like I like it!
3. Healthy food. I'm trying to make a change and give up sweets for a while and whilst that feels like a herculean task it's made considerably easier by thinking of all the fruit and fresh produce I get to have on my meals. I've done one serious day of intense fruit and veg intake and already my body feels more vibrant, like it's humming with energy, so onwards with it!
4. Having time for projects. Remember when you keep postponing tasks like reorganizing your pantry or decluttering your closet because you simply don't have the time? Well, I am channelling my extra time and energy on an enormous list of projects. To make matters more interesting, a few weeks ago R. found an app where you can create your virtual house (imagine Sims, but with the correct measurements of your actual home), so I'm having fun moving my virtual furniture around before starting to shuffle the real physical stuff.
5. Being on my own. This year sadly my and R. had to have our holidays separately which means that for the past five days I've had the house all to myself. Instead of dwelling on how much I miss him I am focusing on how much fun I can have solo. This means that when my side of the bed gets too hot in the middle of the night I can simply roll over to the other side. Or that I can knit in the big sofa without having to worry about hitting R. with the needles. Or that I can spend all my free time watching an entire season of Friends in one go. It's a world of choice!
6. Getting up early. I'm one of those people that when they don't have an alarm clock set they end up going to bed increasingly later and getting up almost at lunchtime. And whilst there's nothing wrong with that it's not something I particularly enjoy because it makes me feel that I've lost half the day by the time I wake up. However this time I'm proud to say I have been a very good girl, going to bed no later than midnight and getting up around 7am. I'd get myself a treat if I weren't a) on a diet and b) saving money due to lack of income, so never mind that!

No Garfield Mondays

Let me start by saying that I have always been a Garfield fan. I just love that cat and all other character that come with him (except Nermal, that cat's an idiot show-off!).

However, despite my love of the daily comic strip, I think ultimately Garfield's bad for someone who's trying to start a new week on the right foot. It's just bad juju to start your Monday saying you hate it. Plus it tastes of defeat and personal sabotage, doesn't it?

Yes, it's amusing to make fun of things like hating going to work, laziness, binge-eating and dog-kicking, but I'm afraid that on some (very real) level laughing at it just makes all those flaws more acceptable when really it shouldn't. I believe a bit of humour towards your shortcomings is important for a sane mind and healthy personal relationship with oneself, but that should never serve as an excuse or delay to change and improvement.

And how can you expect to have a wonderful week when the first thing you do is groan at its first day? To dismiss it outright as bad and horrible because it means you have to go to work instead of lazying about all day. What about all the other great things about it like your first cup of coffee or listening to your favourite music on the way to work? What if we started the week being grateful and happy for the small things that make every day (even Mondays) great? And what if we could even muster a bit of hope towards of all the great things that may be? Wouldn't that be something?

Maybe - just maybe - this is just me being extra sensitive due to the fact that I've been out of a job for almost two months and feel an ever increasing need to surround myself with positive thoughts and thus at this point in my life I can't exactly see Garfield as a friend. Not on Mondays at least. Because I need good weeks ahead. And it starts right here in my head.

So join me - close your eyes and take a breath. Now focus on one good thing in your life right now and on all other wonderful things to happen this week. And... go!

Surviving jobhunting

Jobhunting is far from being all puppies and rainbows. Especially if you're unemployed whilst doing it it's downright soul-destroying. So how do you survive it? How do you keep from going mental and coming out on the other side as a strong individual? Well, I don't actually have a magic potion to share, but here's what I try to implement in my case!

1. Grieve. Jobhunting is a brutal business, so give yourself some time (key work here being some!) to heal before getting back up and getting yourself out there. It's alright to feel a bit lost and sad because of this new reality. Sometimes you need to take a step back so you can take two steps forward. To gain momentum, like pushing a coiled spring downwards before releasing it.
2. Make a plan. Don't just go through the motions, instead take the time to draw up a plan of what you want to do first, then second, then third, etc. Start with tweaking your CV, then see what comes next. You can create a profile on several jobhunting websites, contact recruitment agencies directly and see if you can be one of their candidates, jobhunt for jobs online, etc.
3. Be organised. Keep track of what you're doing. I find that keeping a spreadsheet with all the jobs I've applied to on any given day will help keep track of my progress and monitor how well things are going. Don't deceive yourself saying you've applied to loads of things - be specific and know your numbers! If you do create that handy spreadsheet, try to keep it tidy and updated as much as possible. I separate my applications by website, so that I can easily see when was the last time I visited any of my regular places. This way I never stay away for too long and never miss any new jobs. I also take the time to colour code it to highlight the jobs that have rejected my application or the ones I'm currently chasing.
4. Make your own schedule. Having some routine is key to keeping your cool longterm. I get up every workday at 7am and find it does me a world of good as opposed to just sleeping in. Jobhunting is a serious business, so I try to face it like a pro! I do it Monday to Friday and a bit on Saturday mornings before starting off my well deserved weekend. I like stability, so having a sort of regular life whilst unemployed helps to keep my sanity close to intact. Find how to have a productive day and then stick to it on a regular basis.
5. Keep a diary. Everyday I make a list of everything I want to achieve that day. From making the bed and making a load of laundry to jobhunting, booking a dental appointment or chasing up on that interview I'm supposed to hear about soon. And then as the day goes by I make my way through that list, ticking everything I've done so far. This make sound a bit childish, but truth be told it makes a huge difference to me. Since I've started doing this I've never felt the days slowly dragging along again. It also keeps my laziness at bay by reminding me of what I still have to do that day.
6. Pamper yourself. Jobhunting is hard, so take a bit here and there to pamper yourself. Take yourself out to lunch once a week or take a 20 minute break with your book and a cup of tea. Heck, if you're ahead of your own schedule take a bit of the afternoon off and go to the cinema. And make sure to put it all on your diary-list-thingy. Look at those pampering moments and therapeutic breaks for your sanity and to reboost your ego. And it's always another tick!
7. Find a new project. I believe you should be serious about your jobhunting; do it a few hours everyday and keep a close eye on everything that's going on. That being said I don't think it doable to jobhunt for eight hours a day every single day. Not without going crazy within 72 hours or less. So with the time you have left in your day try to find a new project. Remember when you still had a job and kept postponing things because you didn't have the time? Well you can make the most of it now! I'm currently going through my cupboards and trying to maximise storage space in our flat, next I might get some crafts projects going, start on the Christmas batch of handmade presents.
8. Clock out. If you're serious about your jobhunting and do it regularly and methodically then there should be no reason for you to feel guilty for switching off your computer at 6pm (or whatever time you decide is best for you). The beauty of being serious about it during your work week is that you can enjoy your time "out of the office" guilt free. Because - to me at least! - there's nothing worse than when jobhunting takes over your life and you feel bad for having a nice life outside of it. When you feel guilty because you're not hooked to your computer looking for yet another role to apply to.
9. Stay positive. In the end it's just a numbers game. Do your best and the rest will follow. And in the meantime make the most of your "free" time. Make it count and believe something great is always just about to happen. Sooner or later it'll happen, so there's no need to drive yourself into despair until then!